I think I may have received a message from God, and I'm not sure what to do with it. When my husband and I were dating, we went to a music festival at a ski resort. While on the mountaintop there, I had a "thought" that the following summer I would get engaged in that very spot. It was completely unbidden, something like a whisper to my soul. It made me nervous, but also gave me peace. I prayed about it frequently over the following days, and sure enough, it came to pass.
Recently, I had a very similar experience. This time the "thought" was that I would be pregnant on my brother's wedding day. This was before he and his fiancé set their date, but now they have one. Their wedding is in October of next year. So, if this truly was prophetic and my math is right, I could find myself expecting as soon as two months from now! My dilemma is whether or not to tell my husband. He is under a lot of stress right now, between work pressure and spiritual struggles, and I don't want to add to his burdens (especially if it turns out to be nothing). But at the same time, I feel bad not telling him in case it is true and our whole life is about to change! We've been married for two years and are pretty well in agreement when it comes to various aspects of child-rearing, including wanting to wait at least another year or two before we start trying.
I keep going back and forth over whether to tell him what I experienced. I don't feel peace about it either way. What should I do?
Dear Worried Wife,
You ask if you should tell your husband that you have a message from God that you will be pregnant next summer when your brother gets married. I think that it would be a mistake to share this with your husband for two main reasons:
First of all, you mentioned that your husband is currently having spiritual struggles. What would happen to him spiritually if he believed that you had a message from God and it did not come to pass? We know that it is impossible for God to lie (Hebrews 6:18). If this truly is a message from God, it will come to pass. Therefore, if your husband believes that you received a message from God and it doesn’t come to pass, his trust in God will plummet. He may even doubt the existence of God. Therefore, it is best to not tell your husband anything and to take a wait-and-see approach.
Secondly, you have no way of knowing that your “thought” is a message from God. Even you acknowledged that it might not be from God. You are basing the possibility that it could be a message from God on a past experience in which you had a “thought” about something that came true. This is flimsy evidence, at best, that God is sending you messages through you thoughts. The Bible tells us, “The heart is deceitful above all things” (Jeremiah 17:9). Many people have believed things that were not true and made mistakes that they have long regretted because they followed what they believed God was speaking to them in their heart. The Bible tells us that in times past God spoke to individuals through various ways (such as directly, audibly, in dreams, in visions, through prophets, and other ways), but now He speaks to us through the words of Jesus and the Bible which is the inspired word of God (Hebrews 1:1-2, 2 Peter 1:21). An examination of all the Biblical examples of God speaking to people indicate that in all cases it was so that God’s will would be accomplished. I can find no example that God ever gave a specific message to any individual regarding personal future events. (I invite my readers to show me any examples that they may find.) Therefore, rather than wondering that God might be sending you messages about your future through your thoughts, it’s best to just trust your future to God and live each day as it comes (Matthew 6:34).