When I receive a letter, I never send a response until after I have devoted time to pray about it—perhaps only a day or two, but in some instances I have prayed for up to two weeks. My prayer is always to be sensitive to the needs of the writer and to convey to the writer the things that God would want them to know. Sometimes I preface my response with an acknowledgment that what I have to say may be hard to hear. However, it is never my intention to be insensitive or hurtful in anything that I say.
My readers should always keep in mind that this is a Christian advice column that strives to answer questions from a biblical perspective. The published information about me clearly states that I believe in traditional Christian values and morals, and I believe the Bible to be the inspired word of God. Therefore, my replies may not be popular or politically correct, especially in certain cultures, and I realize that there will always be those who will disagree with some of my responses.
That being said, I would like to address the person who wrote me a particularly scathing comment, and asking if this is for real or a satire blog. I have taken your comments to heart. Your message increased my awareness that just because I think that I am following God's leading in my replies, I still could be mistaken. However, you were mistaken in your assumptions about the situation of the person who wrote to me. This person is doing well and her situation has greatly improved since my initial contact with her. I appreciate your comments, but your condemnation was not deserved. I am not perfect. I don’t know everything. I make mistakes. Sometimes I may even give inappropriate responses or bad advice, but my intention is to help and never to harm. There will always be people who disagree with my responses, but before you criticize me so harshly, remember that you do not have all the information.