Is Infrequent Communication a Sign that He isn’t Interested in Her?

Dear Aunt Dara,

First of all, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the advice you gave me earlier to free myself from my previous relationship.  To God be the glory, I have been free from him for months now.  I have been focusing on my studies in college and my pastors have promoted me over our worship team so I have been occupied.  I am interested in this guy that I have ministered with years ago.  We have known of each other but we have never really taken the time to get to know one another as individuals.  He goes to a college about two hours away from mine and he came down for the holidays.  We began texting at first and we hung out once a little while he was in the area.  I am interested in him because we have so much in common.  He plays the piano and I sing, so we help each other where both of us lack.  He is very calm, he has the same ambitious goals as I do, and most importantly, he loves God so much and I see that.  I don't have to wonder about where his relationship is with God.  I guess my problem is that we don't speak every day, sometimes it might be two weeks before we speak to one another, and I might have to text him.  Basically, he is not as eager to text or hang out with me like all the other guys who I have been interested in before.  Even though I am strictly seeking a stronger friendship with him, I do like him and would love to have a courting relationship in the future.  I recently read a book called, "I kissed Dating Goodbye" which is a book that guides singles before marriage.  This is the first time that I am trying to put God first in all of my potential relationships; friendships and all.  I really don't know if he likes me or not.  I don't want to be impatient.  I want to do the right thing this time.

Trying to be Patient

Dear Trying to be Patient,

Thank you for the feedback.  I am glad that what I said to you before was helpful and that you now are doing so well.  Regarding this new person taking so long to respond to you rather than communicating every day--I don't see too much of a problem with that.  As you mentioned, he is in college and he is undoubtedly occupied with his classes and assignments.  That doesn't mean that he isn't interested in you.  It just means that at this time in his life, you aren't his first concern.  And that is appropriate, since this is just the beginning of your relationship together.  If he didn't like you, he wouldn't be communicating with you at all and wouldn't have spent the holidays with you.  He is taking it slowly and getting to know you as a person, and that is a very good sign.  Keep praying for your relationship to deepen and then wait for God's timing.

God bless,
Aunt Dara