tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1393290758796472431.post7895137967785559375..comments2023-04-28T00:24:09.798-07:00Comments on Aunt Dara's Christian Advice Column: How to Reconcile with MomAunt Darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11213247213710006664noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1393290758796472431.post-18556182371252533552016-08-03T13:36:48.561-07:002016-08-03T13:36:48.561-07:00to Daughter:
I'm glad you read and accepted Au...to Daughter:<br />I'm glad you read and accepted Aunt Dara's response. I really you are only 19 but this was a small incident in your life to prepare you for the bigger problems life gives you. God says that storms and sunshine happen equally to the good and the wicked.<br />I would say, acknowledge your hurt, cry, acknowledge the pain you caused your mother for 9 years, cry, and say what Aunt Dara advise you to say to your mom<br />Then LET IT GO. Like frozen ;)<br />Just know that that instance, although it shocked you doesn't mean your mom is abusive. My mom used to come home from work and beat the sh*t out of me every day- just because she was angry. I've also been choked, thrown up against walls/couches, my head grabbed and pushed into human feces/boogers (my sisters' on both accounts), and more. Anytime my mom came to me and apologized afterward, I forgave her because I knew the anger wasn't her. If you can imagine demonic possession, and I am not talking about someone crawling on walls & throwing up,that's what her anger was like. You couldn't reason with her/it, it was unabating, it was easily provoked by simple things like crying to become worse... You could look in her eyes and know it was not my mom. It was a demonic being called murderous rage.<br />The only thing that has helped is God. He alone has taken that from her. Nothing else could.<br />However, I say all that to put it into perspective for you. Your mom did everything because she cared about you. You say she should have looked harded and could have to find the note you left. I disagree. She was looking for YOU a 10yr old sized human being around the house, not an ordinary piece of paper. And even if she did look for a note, how would she've known where you put it? And if she did look where you put it- WHO would have checked the trash?! She didn't know you even left the note at all. Again, she was looking for you, not anything else. Her worst fears were coming true (you kidnapped/murdered) and fear makes our brains shut down most of our logic, regardless of age.<br />Listen, you have the chance to fix your relationship with her. It could be far worse- she could be dead. Live your lives now with no regard to the past.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com